I remember being a young mother, looking around at all the older mother's at my son's school, and listening to one of them declare her children were her life. I watched the other mother's nod their heads, except one other mother and me. She looked at me, I looked at her, and we both rolled our eyes. Always outspoken, I blurted out proudly, "Not me! I've got way more shit going on than my kid!" The moms were appalled. I swear a couple cliched their preverbal pearls, while others slipped their hands in the large, pleated pockets of their mom jeans. The group hushed and I looked around like, what? Did I say something wrong?
Don't Become Consumed:
I was just around 26 years old, but I'd already figured out something that would make my life as a mother more enjoyable. I was a single mom, enjoying my new career as a New York Times bestselling author, dating freely, socializing often, and loving every single bit of my life as a woman, placing motherhood second to that. I was never consumed with being a mother. It was never enough for me! I knew, even at such a young age, that I could and would have it all, according to my definition of having it all. So, I lived my life, focused on my career, stayed social and active, never neglecting my romantic life, and always being there for my son. Having career that enables me to work from home, made it simpler for me to always be available for drop-offs, pick-ups, field trips, parent/teacher conferences, and other school activities. I really did meet my definition of having it all!
I Say That to Say This:
Each of our lives and circumstances are different, but what I know for sure is that we can all make time for ourselves, as well as the people we love, and the professional and educational goals we have set. It takes proper scheduling, follow through, and the notion that your children are not the end-all-be-all of our existence. You don't have to spend every waking hour running behind them, hovering over them, or talking and thinking about them –– especially as they get older. It's okay to talk about ourselves. It's okay to go out with the girls or have them over for a glass of wine after the kids go to bed. Please, invite the guys over for next week's Cowboys game, or shut the entire world out for a few hours while your mom has the kids. Get your nails done, mom. Have your hair done and your back massaged. Sign up for online classes or create that business you've been talking about for years. Your children are not your world! They are one of the most significant parts of it, and the very reason why you need to take care of yourself. Put your oxygen mask on first!
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