Honoring Our Limitations
This past Sunday, several members and I met for a group coaching session entitled, Honoring our Limitations. During our two hours together, each member and I discussed circumstances in our lives that limit our abilities to accomplish what needs to get done, when it needs to be done, or at all. During the session, it was important that I helped our sisters to understand that having limitations is to be expected and respected. I am a strong believer that we can do and be everything and anything we wish, ofcourse! However, none of us can give 100% to more than one thing at a time. Even in mathematics, this is impossible. So, I developed a 3-prong approach to making friends with our constraints, instead of always pushing against them, and recorded this coaching session for you to watch!
#1: Managing Expectations
Baby steps promote consistency, by giving ourselves ample time and space to accomplish our tasks and responsibilities. Most people want to get to their end results faster, and therefore, focus on the bigger picture. The issue with this is that while focusing on the forest, most people aren't paying attention to the trees! The most effective way to manage your expectations is to focus on one small step at a time. When we focus on baby steps, we instantly manage our expectations, by giving ourselves obtainable goals, daily. Also, in keeping our daily planners and to-do lists limited to just 2 to 3 tasks per day (outside of work), we are better equipped to manage the expectation of having to do everything on our master list in just one day.
#2: Honoring Limitations
The fact of the matter is that you can't do everything exactly when you want to do it, how you want to get it done. It is important for each of us to be honest about that. As much as I believe that you can do everything you need to get done in order to crush your goals, you just can't work against your limitations. Now, this doesn't mean we can't get things done. What it does mean, however, is that we have to respect the boundaries of our lives and use them to our advantage instead of fighting against them.
#3: Trusting Your Systems
In order to manage your expectations and honor your limitations, it's going to be vital that you put a series of systems into place, and then, trust those systems. Whether these are organizational and scheduling systems, or self care initiatives, once you have found a way of being that works for you, stick to it! Over time, make improvements and tweaks as your life changes, but stick to your systems, even and especially if no one else understands them.