3 Ways to Train Your Subconscious

Life is life, and anything is bound to happen. In life, however, it’s not about what happens, but how you react to what happens –– and in order to handle life’s circumstances with grace and dignity, you’ve gotta put mind over matter. Still, most people are really bad at this, and that’s because they haven’t practiced much of what we cover at The Gorgeous Girl’s Guide, and they haven’t trained their minds.

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5 Week Tweak: Week #5 –– Forward Focus

Repair yourself by taking time away from the noise, and then, realign with who you really are, your core desires, and goals. Prepare to meet those desires and goals by making lists and scheduling tasks, and then, forward focus.

Everyone has dreams. Only some people apply a plan to those dreams and turns them into goals.And even fewer people employ the sort of focus it takes to turn one’s goals into a reality.

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5 Week Tweak: Week #4 –– Shift

For the past month, as summer vacation wound down, we have focused our self-care, giving each week a theme to abide by: repair, realign, prepare, and now, we shift! Members know this is my favorite form care –– the willingness and ability to move, to change one’s circumstances by making a change and taking a leap, no matter how small.

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5 Week Tweak: Week #3 –– Prepare

You’ve repaired, you’ve realign, and now, it’s time to prepare! Kids are off to school next week and in the weeks after. And when they get there, their teachers are going to tell them what to expect, and when. Every teacher has honed his or her lesson plan over the summer, and each of them are coming back prepared.

What about you?

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5 Week Tweak: Week #2 –– Realign

Last week, our focus was on repairing ourselves by cutting the fat in our lives and getting back to what really matters. Cutting emotional, physical, electronic, personal, and professional clutter is absolutely necessary in order to quiet the mind, reorganize and compartmentalize our lives. This is a practice I perform each season, and I do it instinctively. Unfortunately, most people don’t do this. Instead, most people take on whatever comes, letting everything pile up over a series of weeks, months, and years, until it breaks them. This is why reparation is the first step in any shifting process.

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5 Week Tweak: Week #1 –– Repair

We’re on summer vacation here at The G3, and even though it’s hard to believe, fall is right around the corner! Damn. Where is the summer going? It’s amazing how fast time flies when you’re adulting.

Ugh.

But, in the meantime, we are dedicating the month of August to making a new shift in preparation for the fall, and for all the changes that come with kids going back to school, colder weather, shorter days, and (sooner than you think) the holidays. The next and final four months of the year are, undoubtedly, the busiest –– and the most exhausting.

As summer comes to an end, it’s a great time to check in with ourselves and make a few tweaks. Enter the 5 Week Tweak!

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Part 2: How to Diagnose and Eradicate Burnout

Feeling the affects of the world weighing on my shoulders, I cannot ignore the heaviness that comes with being in society. Some people need people; they need noise and chaos, and constant contact. I am not one of those people. I am completely overwhelmed by the day-to-day happenings in the world and in people’s lives. Stressful new reports, noisy and misbehaved children, relationship drama, idle chit-chat and small talk –– I can’t take it! So, this is the perfect time to dig into my self-care toolbox and pull out a few mainstays.

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Part 1: How to Diagnose and Eradicate Burnout

Oh my god, I’m so fucking burnt. I have legit had enough of life, for right now. Adulting is hard and I’m super-duper-extra ready to bail on everything and everybody for a while. Aaaaaaaarrrrrgggghhhhh!

Breathe.

Burnout is real, and most people suffer through it, not realizing that being tired, listless, and disconnected is not the way life is supposed to be! Not every adult wakes up and dreads the day, begrudgingly works a job they hate just so they can get by, and then, slowly makes their way home with no motivation to do anything else. This is not the way of live in other countries and communities around the world!

And this is not my way of life, either.

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The 6 Stages of Change

Shift and shift, again. This mantra is one of our mainstays at The Gorgeous Girls Guide. It is a simple saying meant to remind each and every one of us to continuously change, to improve our emotional, physical, financial, professional, and spiritual selves.

But, how do you know when you’re on the right track? How do you know when you’re doing it right?

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How I Diffuse Relationship Triggers

We all have negative emotional triggers –– things we see, hear, smell, touch, or taste that take us back to a memory, a fear, or point of contention or anxiety. And these days, being triggered has become fodder for social media; we’re all talking about being triggered, but who among us talks about becoming “un-triggered?”

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This Single Shift Saved My Relationship

Every relationship has its trouble, and sometimes, that trouble can last a while or repeat itself over a number of years. Before you know it, you’re arguing about who forgot to put the lid on the peanut butter. And we all know that’s not the real issue.

Looking back on my own relationship, I can pinpoint where things went wrong during tough times and why. In retrospect, and in a solemn attempt to improve relations with my husband, I had to take a deeper look at myself and what I’d been doing wrong, and the answer was…

…holding on.

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The Draining Power of Underwhelm

As a person who found my passion at 5 years old, and rode that passion into my adulthood, making a living with it, my entire life is built upon the concept of being passionate about everything I do. I have never worked hard at something that didn’t excite me and get me out of bed in the morning. I don’t know what it’s like to wake up and go to work for someone else, to do something that doesn’t move my spirit and fuel my desires.

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The Four Focuses

As I write this, it is the end of May, and I have been in a state of flux since mid-February. The term, state of flux, is define as a state of uncertainty about what should be done (usually following some important event) preceding the establishment of a new direction of action –– and this is exactly where I’ve been.

Life changes, and sometimes, those changes can come at you fast, and it can be difficult to adjust. Even as a coach, I struggle with unforeseen life-changing events, and it takes me a bit of time to recover from the initial shock before digging into my tool bag, and searching for tools to help me cope, heal, and adjust. This is a process that can’t be rushed. It is a process that incorporates a series of practices that need to be practiced, daily. Here are 4 daily focuses that have helped me over these past 3 months of recovery:

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